The world begins to open once we stop making decisions before we know the questions. I have seen in the past few months a huge change in how people respond to me. I somehow thought, as I think many of us do, that if someone were interested in me they would approach me or make an effort. I however, was so wrapped up in my own need to feel special that it never dawned on me that others feel that way too. Insecurities are not mine alone they belong to the most capable, beautiful and talented people among us.

As human beings we somehow have this deep seeded need to be seen and heard. All too often we forget to reveal ourselves.  Saying hello isn’t always enough to break through. It can take not one but three, five or even ten conversations to build a connection; a desire to personally get to know one another.


The reality is not everyone sticks. Some people just don’t connect. Sometimes it’s personal but more often than not; time, work, family, health, etc all play a roles. We may get lucky and make friends, but generally our lives are filled with wonderful and interesting acquaintances. What’s important is that we connect over and over. We need to try again and again. If not we miss out on unforeseeable opportunities or quite possibly a life changing connection.

There is a reason for saying hello, for making an effort, for welcoming someone in. Every effort opens our hearts and our lives to abundance. Saying yes to relationships on any level expands our personal worlds. Relationships are both a gift and a necessity for growth.

There is no clear answer to who will play huge role in our lives until they reveal themselves. It can be a simple word of advise, a life changing opportunity or the simple security of trust in another human being. Whatever it is; do not close off your heart. Open your life. Welcome change. Give and take as needed. Know that your existence means as much to others as theirs means to you. Cherish the relationships in your life both big and small. These relationships are a foundation for how we view and live in this world.


Author: Finding True North

Nichole Donje is an interdisciplinary artist, activist, and leader. A philosopher and self-exploration addict, Nichole is currently working on two books of art and poetry FINDING TRUE NORTH and LIFE POEMS. She is a visual artist and photographer. Nichole founded and ran the highly regarded New York City based independent theatre company TAPT from 2006-2016. Serving as TAPT’s Artistic Director, Nichole worked diligently to support new and forgotten works that help shape the way we view the world around us. A recognized leader, Nichole served three terms as Vice President of the Board of Directors for The Players. Currently, she chairs both the Communications and Theatre Committees which she established. The Players celebrates the rich cultural life of New York City with exclusive member-only events that include live performances, readings by leading authors and playwrights, film screenings, and dining in its famous Grill Room. More information about The Players may be found at theplayersnyc.org. A key influencer of the Players current revitalization she has become an advocate for the art and livelihood of a social club. The Players not only honors yesterday’s and today’s luminaries of the performing arts but also reminds us of the necessity of building face to face relationships. Nichole is a member of SAG-AFTRA, LPTW/League of Professional Theatre Women, LeanInNYC, and The Players.

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